What decision making rights do I have as the custodial parent? 1 Answers as of April 18, 2011I have a daughter who is 5 while I was pregnant he called me lots of bad names and said the baby wasn’t his. She was born I named her with my last name but naming him as the father on the birth certificate. He signed it a month and half later he got a dna test done she was his. He now pays child support. He got a DV charge and ended up with supervised visits and I got sole decision making responsibility. For about 5 years he has a poor track record for his visits put it this way he had 110 available visits last year and showed for 44 of them thats how it has been for almost 5 years. In jan of this year we went back to court and he now has unsupervised visits. He is ordered to help me pay medical dental vision etc and he will not he says its my problem. So I am having to pay 100% of medical cost he has also had her on medical insurance 3 times and has dropped her 2 times he puts her on ins when he is up to something for example I got served to go to court in jan of this year on sept 4th of last year which was a Saturday that wed he gave me a insurance card. Now he wants the court to change her last name to his he put on the petition to acknowledge that she was his daughter and most kids carry their fathers last name anyway to me thats not a good reason what about me and my rights I have been with this child 100% thru thick and thin. I am the one who makes everything ok for my child when her dad jacks up. When my child asks me why her dad left early or why her dad didnt come back or why her dad plays with his cell phone all the time or why her dad doesn’t give her medication. I am the one who takes care of it and tries to make everything ok. I am always fixing everything. Now that he has unsupervised visits he has the IM THE DAD ATTITUDE and she is mine and I will do what I want with her. I feel he looks at her as a possession and not his child. What can I do I am the custodial parent and have sole decision making responsibility.
John E. Kirchner, Attorney at Law | John Kirchner
Your decision making rights should be set out in the applicable court orders. But, those rights are subject to change or veto by the judge. With respect to name changes, once it is before a judge, the judge has that decision-making authority - not you. Generally, the judge will make that decision based on balance the best interests of the child against the constitutional interests of the parents. Historically, the law considered it was a parental right for the child to carry the father's last name; today, gender equality principles usually result in judge's ordering the use of both parental names in non-married parent custody case and require hyphenated names when the parents can't agree.
Answer Applies to: Colorado