How can I stop my husband's ex girlfriend from harassing me at work? 66 Answers as of June 26, 2013

My husband's ex girlfriend whom they have a 9 yr old together, continues to call my job which is in a restaurant, and asks if I'm there. If the other employees answer no, she will place a order then proceed to tell them, "Good we don't want her to spit in my food!" I'm now on the verge of loosing my job cause they are tired of the phone calls. What can I do about her harassing me like this.

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Law Offices of Ronald A. Steinberg & Associates | Ronald A. Steinberg, BA, MA, JD
Go to the police. Get a lawyer to sue her.
Answer Applies to: Michigan
Replied: 8/21/2012
Robert Valles and Associates P.C.
Robert Valles and Associates P.C. | Robert Valles Jr.
File a police report.
Answer Applies to: Texas
Replied: 6/26/2013
Larry K. Dunn & Associates | Larry K. Dunn
Although not a question relating to criminal defense, a person can seek a restraining order from the court in order to stop from being harassed.
Answer Applies to: Nevada
Replied: 8/20/2012
Law Offices of Mark L. Smith
Law Offices of Mark L. Smith | Mark L. Smith
You must obtain a civil restraining order.
Answer Applies to: Rhode Island
Replied: 8/20/2012
Law Office of Brian K. Wanerman
Law Office of Brian K. Wanerman | Brian K. Wanerman
Call the ex-girlfriend and tell her calmly but firmly that she is not to call you ever again, either at your work or anywhere else. Do not threaten to do anything if she refuses and do not argue with her. But write down her response. If she calls you again, that's harassment, you could go to the D.A. and ask him to file charges against her. Regardless of what the D.A. does on the criminal front, you may already have enough for a lawsuit against her for defamation since she has intimated to your professional colleagues that you would act in an unprofessional manner (spit in her food) for personal reasons. Consult an attorney for an assessment of your options.
Answer Applies to: California
Replied: 8/20/2012
    Austin Hirschhorn, P.C.
    Austin Hirschhorn, P.C. | Austin Hirschhorn
    Contact the police and make a complaint against the person who is making the calls that are bothering you. They should investigate and take steps to stop what you are complaining about. They may even have a criminal case file against her if she doesn't stop making calls.
    Answer Applies to: Michigan
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    R. D. Kelly Law Firm, P.L.L.C.
    R. D. Kelly Law Firm, P.L.L.C. | Robert Kelly
    Perhaps a protective "anti-harassment" order would be appropriate. You can find the forms on-line here: http://www.courts.wa.gov/forms/?fa=forms.contribute&formID=2. They are fairly easy to get.
    Answer Applies to: Washington
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Paul Whitfield and Associates P.A.
    Paul Whitfield and Associates P.A. | Paul L. Whitfield
    These type telephone calls are contrary to law. Talk to the police and or DA in your town.
    Answer Applies to: North Carolina
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Myles Hahn III Attorney at Law | Myles Hahn III
    Some possible actions to consider: First, have a good talk with the boss or manager at the restaurant. Tell him/her that you did not invite the calls. Perhaps the manager will provide information about how he/she wants it handled. Second, depending on the circumstances, report the matter to the police.
    Answer Applies to: Illinois
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of Brendan M. Kelly
    Law Office of Brendan M. Kelly | Brendan M. Kelly
    Get a protection order and have the business included for no-contact.
    Answer Applies to: Nebraska
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Kelaher Law Offices, P.A.
    Kelaher Law Offices, P.A. | James P Kelaher
    This isn't really a personal injury question, but you can always hire an attorney to get a restraining order to prohibit her from having any contact with you or your employer.
    Answer Applies to: Florida
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of James A Schoenberger
    Law Office of James A Schoenberger | James A Schoenberger
    You need to seek an anti-harrasment order.
    Answer Applies to: Washington
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Nelson & Lawless
    Nelson & Lawless | Terry Nelson
    How can I stop? You can try to file criminal charges with local police. You can seek a civil restraining order. You can file for one at the local court. If serious about hiring counsel to help in this, and if this is in SoCal courts, feel free to contact me.
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Freeborn Law Offices, P.S.
    Freeborn Law Offices, P.S. | Steve Freeborn
    Petition the court for an anti-harassment order.
    Answer Applies to: Washington
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of James J. Rosenberger | James Joseph Rosenberger
    You can contact the local district court and seek an anti-harassment order which would bar her from engaging in a continuous course of annoying conduct such as you describe. An attorney could assist you in this.
    Answer Applies to: Washington
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Gonzalez & Cartwright, P.A.
    Gonzalez & Cartwright, P.A. | Charles Cartwright
    Call the police. This likely violates stalking laws.
    Answer Applies to: Florida
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Timiney Law Firm
    Timiney Law Firm | Leigh Anne Timiney
    You can file a request for an order of protection and an injunction against harassment against her. This would prohibit her from contacting you or attempting to contact you in person, at your home or at your place of work. You will need to be able to show it is her making the calls. Once an order is issued, if she violates the order she can be arrested. You can file for these orders on your own and without the help of an attorney in the court which has jurisdiction over the area where the harassment is taking place or where you live. In order to determine the correct court, I would suggest you contact the court and inquire.
    Answer Applies to: Arizona
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Palumbo and Kosofsky
    Palumbo and Kosofsky | Michael Palumbo
    You should make a police complaint.
    Answer Applies to: New York
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of Neal L. Weinstein
    Law Office of Neal L. Weinstein | Neal L. Weinstein
    In most states, you can file a Protection from Harassment Complaint which will bar her from calling your employment and home, if she has done this for 3 or more times. If she violates the order, she faces a potential jail sentence. It usually doesn't cost anything to file these complaints, but you must go to the court to get the papers.
    Answer Applies to: Maine
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of Stuart M. Nachbar, P.C.
    Law Office of Stuart M. Nachbar, P.C. | Stuart M. Nachbar
    Get a restraining order.
    Answer Applies to: New Jersey
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Paris Blank LLP
    Paris Blank LLP | Irving M Blank
    You can get a lawyer and petition the Court for an injunction or you can talk to a magistrate and/or a prosecutor and see if her calls constitute a criminal act and, if they do, have her charged.
    Answer Applies to: Virginia
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of Christopher G Humphrey PC | Christopher G Humphrey
    Get a civil stalking and protection order, call safe house or your local court for details.
    Answer Applies to: Wyoming
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Timothy J. Thill P.C.
    Timothy J. Thill P.C. | Timothy J. Thill
    Go to the police and file a complaint against her for harassment by phone. This is a criminal charge, which should be handled by the police.
    Answer Applies to: Illinois
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Connell-Savela
    Connell-Savela | Jason Savela
    Request a restraining order.
    Answer Applies to: Colorado
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Leonard A. Kaanta, P.C. | Leonard A. Kaanta
    You seek a PPO for stalking.
    Answer Applies to: Michigan
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Offices of John Carney
    Law Offices of John Carney | John Carney
    This is a scenario from "Seinfeld" where George kept calling the diner to get the waitress fired. You do not have to put up with people calling you repeatedly. You can have them arrested for Aggravated Harassment if you inform them not to call and they keep calling you. They will be arrested and you will get an Order of Protection from the judge that tells that person that if they contact you in any way for a period of time that they will be charged with Contempt and could be given a year in jail.
    Answer Applies to: New York
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    The Law Office of Harry E. Hudson, Jr.
    The Law Office of Harry E. Hudson, Jr. | Harry E. Hudson, Jr.
    File for a tro restraining her from calling your place of employment. Suggest you talk to an attorney. You may be able to recover attorney fees.
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Fox & Fox, S.C. | Richard F. Rice
    You could start by contacting the local police and file a harassment complaint against her. If contacting the police does not solve the problem, then contact your local circuit (county) court and get the paperwork to file for a temporary restraining order that you need to serve on her and then attend the hearing before a Judge and testify to obtain an injunction for up to 4 years. Good luck.
    Answer Applies to: Wisconsin
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Mike Yeksavich | Mike Yeksavich
    File for a protective order.
    Answer Applies to: Oklahoma
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of Edward J. Blum
    Law Office of Edward J. Blum | Edward J. Blum
    You can stop that by a restraining order.
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of Peacock & Le Beau | Jeffery O. Le Beau
    Get a restraining order against her if you believe the calls are harassing. Our firm has been representing individuals in restrain order cases for over 23 years. We represent clients in LA, Orange, Riverside, and Ventura counties. Both my partner and I are State Bar Certified Criminal Law Specialist (only approximately 300 in the entire State of California) and named "Super Lawyers" in LA Magazine. But more importantly over 70% of our new cases come from referrals from our previous clients, other lawyers, judges, police officers, and prosecutors looking for great representation for their friends and loved ones.
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Gates' Law, PLLC | Thomas E. Gates
    Get a restraining order. Any violation can be reported to the police.
    Answer Applies to: Washington
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Gary Moore, Attorney at Law
    Gary Moore, Attorney at Law | Gary Moore
    Go to the police to file a harrassment complaint in the town where the harassment occurs.
    Answer Applies to: New Jersey
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of Gregory Crain | Gregory Crain
    File harassment charges against her.
    Answer Applies to: Arkansas
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of Phillip Weiser
    Law Office of Phillip Weiser | Phillip L. Weiser
    Make a police report about the incidents and give specific details as to the dates and messages, this may give you the chance to file for a protection from stalking order which can prohibit her from having any kind of contact with you.
    Answer Applies to: Kansas
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Andrew T. Velonis, P.C.
    Andrew T. Velonis, P.C. | Andrew Velonis
    You can get a restraining order against her. If she violates it, that will be contempt of court.
    Answer Applies to: New York
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Tannehill, Carmean & McKenzie, PLLC | Jay P. Carmean
    *SEC. 97-29-45. Profane and indecent language over telephone; penalties; jurisdiction.* (1) It shall be unlawful for any person or persons: (a) To make any comment, request, suggestion or proposal over a telephone which is obscene, lewd or lascivious with intent to abuse, threaten or harass any party to a telephone conversation; (b) To make a telephone call, with intent to terrify, intimidate or harass, and threaten to inflict injury or physical harm to any person at the called number or to his property; (c) To make a telephone call, whether or not conversation ensues, without disclosing his identity and with intent to annoy, abuse, threaten or harass any person at the called number; (d) To make or cause the telephone of another repeatedly or continuously to ring, with intent to harass any person at the called number; (e) To make repeated telephone calls, during which conversation ensues, solely to harass any person at the called number.
    Answer Applies to: Mississippi
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    James M. Osak, P.C.
    James M. Osak, P.C. | James M. Osak
    File a PPO against her. Let her explain to the judge why she makes those phone calls to your job. Take her to court for defamation (small claims).
    Answer Applies to: Michigan
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Germaine & Blaszka, P.A.
    Germaine & Blaszka, P.A. | Donald L. Blaszka, Jr.
    In NH, you can contact the police and report the incidents of harassment. Your manager at work can also tell her not to contact the restaurant and that any further calls will result in police involvement.
    Answer Applies to: New Hampshire
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Steven Alpers | Steven Alpers
    You would have to file an action for civil harassment in court.
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    LynchLaw
    LynchLaw | Michael Thomas Lynch
    An individual can file a petition with the court asking them to issue an order restraining another from harassing activity.
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of Richard Williams
    Law Office of Richard Williams | Richard Williams
    The next time she calls and makes such a comment call the police and have them make a report for harassment.Take the report to the magistrate and sign a warrant charging her with harassment. Make certain that you show up for court and insist that the prosecutor zealously prosecute her.Maybe she will get the message.
    Answer Applies to: Alabama
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Offices of Patricia M. Corrales
    Law Offices of Patricia M. Corrales | Patricia M. Corrales
    If you know who it is...go to the police station and ask them to file charges for harrassment.
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Bernard Huff, Attorney/Mediator
    Bernard Huff, Attorney/Mediator | Bernard Huff
    Consult with a lawyer who handles harassmnt cases. Also, you may try to obtain a restrainng order in the local court against her.
    Answer Applies to: Indiana
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Mace J. Yampolsky, LTD
    Mace J. Yampolsky, LTD | Mace Yampolsky
    You should get a restraining order.
    Answer Applies to: Nevada
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Jennifer L. Gottschalk, Esq. | Jennifer Gottschalk
    Sign a complaint against her for harassment. Maybe it's domestic violence.
    Answer Applies to: New Jersey
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Beaulier Law Office
    Beaulier Law Office | Maury Beaulier
    If the conduct persists, you may seek a harassment restraining order. You should contact legal counsel.
    Answer Applies to: Minnesota
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Law Office of Ronald G. Draper | Ronald G. Draper
    Yes you can seek a order of protection. Talk to the police about the process.
    Answer Applies to: Illinois
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Downriver Injury and Auto Law | Michael Heilmann
    You cant prevent anyone from calling a public phone number.
    Answer Applies to: Michigan
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Rita Skuratovsky
    Rita Skuratovsky | Rita Skuratovsky
    You should request a restraining order. You can get a temporary order right away and then seek a permanent one. Document everything she does, the dates she called, get phone records, and ask your co-workers to either provide a signed statement or testify at the hearing. A judge should grant you the stay-away order. You can go to a local court house and tell them you need a restraining order. They will direct you.
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Dunnings Law Firm
    Dunnings Law Firm | Steven Dunnings
    Try to get a Personal Protection Order, but hire an attorney.
    Answer Applies to: Michigan
    Replied: 8/20/2012
    Darren Meyer, Attorney at Law | Darren Meyer
    Go to the magistrate and file for a protective order. Also contact a civil attorney in regards to filing suit against her.
    Answer Applies to: Virginia
    Replied: 8/20/2012
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