How can I obtain child custody of my daughter? 28 Answers as of October 19, 2011

My ex wife has custody of our 4 children, but only has my little girl living with her. My daughter has told me and other family that she would like to live with me and not her mom. Her mother is in jail and my daughter is with her cousin and his family. I want to get custody of my daughter because we all miss her. Please tell me how I can go about getting my daughter?

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Reza Athari & Associates, PLLC | Armand Fried
You say your ex-wife has custody. This implies that there is a divorce decree giving her custody. You need to go back to that court (it it's in Nevada) and ask for a change of custody. If the court is not in Nevada, you can still seek custody in a Nevada court if the children have resided here for at least six months. If the children are not in Nevada, you need to act in a court where they live. The central point is that you need to seek a modification of the current decree awarding her custody. The decree did not award custody to her family but to her, and if she is in jail she is not exercising custody. The court will determine what course of action is "in the best interests of the children" and decide accordingly.
Answer Applies to: Nevada
Replied: 10/19/2011
The Law Office of Kem Eyo, LLC
The Law Office of Kem Eyo, LLC | Kem Eyo
It would probably be in your best interest to speak with an attorney, since the full extent of your options and rights depends on the full explanation of events that led up to your current situation. You may simply need to file a request for change of custody; but there may also be more involved.
Answer Applies to: Georgia
Replied: 10/18/2011
Beaulier Law Office
Beaulier Law Office | Maury Beaulier
You don't children should be insulated from adult issues. If it must be discussed with the children, it is an issue you should take up with a child psychologist in conjunction with the other parent. To acquire custody, you must file a Motion to modify custody.
Answer Applies to: Minnesota
Replied: 10/18/2011
The McDonnell Law Firm, PLLC
The McDonnell Law Firm, PLLC | Patrick J. McDonnell
File a custody petition with Family Court.
Answer Applies to: New York
Replied: 10/18/2011
Warner Center Law Offices of Donald F. Conviser
Warner Center Law Offices of Donald F. Conviser | Donald F. Conviser
File an Order to Show Cause in your Divorce Case seeking custody of your daughter, and in fact, all of your minor children. You have superior rights to the people who have your minor children.
Answer Applies to: California
Replied: 10/17/2011
Fox Law Firm LLC
Fox Law Firm LLC | Tina Fox
You need to file a petition for custody. The judge will look into what is in the best interest of the child. Depending on the age of the child, he may also take into consideration the testimony and desires of the minor child.
Answer Applies to: Illinois
Replied: 10/17/2011
Reeves Law Firm, P.C.
Reeves Law Firm, P.C. | Roy L. Reeves
File a petition. I know you want to know how to win so that you don't hire a lawyer and waste that money, but there is no simple answer to that question. You can certainly help yourself by going and getting your daughter if you have any custody papers whatsoever, you have a superior right to that of the cousin. Also, get copies of police reports (open records request) and find out who are witnesses to the events that put the ex in jail. Print out her bond/face sheet from the county sheriff if possible and go hire a lawyer sooner rather than later.
Answer Applies to: Texas
Replied: 10/17/2011
Dunnings Law Firm
Dunnings Law Firm | Steven Dunnings
There are a number of statutory factors a court must consider to determine whether a change of custody is in the best interest of the child. Before you get to that part, you must establish that there exists either a substantial change of circumstances or good cause, since the entry of the last custody order, to warrant the court to consider whether a change of custody should even be considered.
Answer Applies to: Michigan
Replied: 10/17/2011
Horizons Law Group, LLC
Horizons Law Group, LLC | Michelle B. Fitzgerald
You need to file a motion asap. You may want to file it as an emergency motion given the situation of her being in jail and not with you - the other parent.
Answer Applies to: Wisconsin
Replied: 10/17/2011
Law Offices of Marshall R. Hoekel, LLC | Marshall Hoekel
You should probably file an action to modify or for custody. Unless someone else is the guardian you have the legal right to the child now.
Answer Applies to: Missouri
Replied: 10/17/2011
    Ashman Law Office
    Ashman Law Office | Glen Edward Ashman
    A good first step would be to retain a lawyer.
    Answer Applies to: Georgia
    Replied: 10/17/2011
    Law Office of Pashan Movasseghi, Esq.
    Law Office of Pashan Movasseghi, Esq. | Pashan Movasseghi, Esq.
    This can be done by petitioning for custody.
    Answer Applies to: New York
    Replied: 10/17/2011
    Law Offices of Arlene D. Kock
    Law Offices of Arlene D. Kock | Arlene D. Kock
    You need to file a motion with the court seeking physical and legal custody of your daughter.
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 10/17/2011
    Patricia C. Van Haren, Attorney at Law
    Patricia C. Van Haren, Attorney at Law | Patricia Van Haren
    If the mother is in jail, you may go pick up your child and take her from the cousin. You may then file a change of custody with the courts based on the mother's incarceration. You should contact a family law attorney immediately to assist you in the preparation of the Order to Show Cause.
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 10/15/2011
    John E. Kirchner, Attorney at Law
    John E. Kirchner, Attorney at Law | John Kirchner
    You need to file a motion to modify the existing court order that gives custody to your ex.
    Answer Applies to: Colorado
    Replied: 10/14/2011
    Coulter's Law
    Coulter's Law | Coulter K. Richardson
    Hire a lawyer. I know it sucks, but you need a lawyer familiar with family practice who can file the appropriate motion papers to transfer custody to you. It shouldn't be too hard since your ex-wife is in jail, unless you have lots of skeletons in your closet that make you a worse choice than an incarcerated mother. I am hard pressed to think of anything, especially considering you have custody of the other children (assuming they are not >18).
    Answer Applies to: New Jersey
    Replied: 10/14/2011
    Vincent J. Bernabei LLC
    Vincent J. Bernabei LLC | Vincent J. Bernabei
    You could file for modification of custody and obtain an emergency order of temporary custody based upon the mother being in jail.
    Answer Applies to: Oregon
    Replied: 10/14/2011
    Michael Apicella
    Michael Apicella | Apicella Law and Mediation
    You need to file a motion to modify the current custody orders. By the way, I assume you have some type of custody order because you said "ex-wife," meaning, that you're divorced, and hence there should have been some custody order as part of that divorce. It would be best to consult with a local family law lawyer regarding how to best present your case so you get the desired custody orders. In fact, it would be best to have a lawyer represent you in court.
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 10/14/2011
    Linda C. Garrett Law
    Linda C. Garrett Law | Linda Garrett
    Sorry, but your set of facts are a bit confusing, so, I'll do what I can to answer this question. First, you say that your ex has "custody of our 4 children"? How is that possible if she is in jail? In jail, she would have custody of NO children. So, where are the other 3 children-besides your daughter? Generally-speaking, you can obtain custody of a child by filing a motion with the court for custody. There are two types of custody-physical and legal. Do you have shared legal? I encourage you to speak to a family lawyer in your area. Many attorneys provide free consultation. Your facts are confusing and custody issues are very complex. Good luck!
    Answer Applies to: California
    Replied: 10/14/2011
    Attorney Paul Lancia
    Attorney Paul Lancia | Paul Lancia
    File a complaint for custody in the Probate and Family Court. FYI, get a lawyer, with a fact pattern like this, you will need one!
    Answer Applies to: Massachusetts
    Replied: 10/14/2011
    Cody and Gonillo, LLP
    Cody and Gonillo, LLP | Christine Gonilla
    You will have to file a motion to modify the custody.
    Answer Applies to: Connecticut
    Replied: 10/14/2011
    Law Office Of Jody A. Miller
    Law Office Of Jody A. Miller | Jody A. Miller
    You need to hire an attorney to file a custody modification action.
    Answer Applies to: Georgia
    Replied: 10/14/2011
    Law Office of Cassandra Savoy
    Law Office of Cassandra Savoy | Cassandra Savoy
    You are the parent. You can file a claim with the court. What about the other three children.
    Answer Applies to: New Jersey
    Replied: 10/14/2011
    Gary Moore, Attorney at Law
    Gary Moore, Attorney at Law | Gary Moore
    Just file with the court for custody. It would appear that there would not be much of a contest.
    Answer Applies to: New Jersey
    Replied: 10/14/2011
    The Davies Law Firm, P.A.
    The Davies Law Firm, P.A. | Robert F. Davies, Esq.
    You will need to go to court. I think you should talk to a lawyer right away, and get some advice. She is in jail? The Court needs a written request that the children should be with you.
    Answer Applies to: New Jersey
    Replied: 10/14/2011
    Petit & Dommershausen SC
    Petit & Dommershausen SC | Tajara Dommershausen
    Custody or placement: If she has primary placement but you have joint custody, go and get her. The cousin has no right to keep her from a parent with joint custody. Otherwise, file a motion for a revision of custody and placement.
    Answer Applies to: Wisconsin
    Replied: 10/14/2011
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