Is Divorce the Answer

Most marriages go through rocky times. And some people are able to preserve their marriages through a variety of different measures. Many others, however, find that divorce offers the best solution.

In fact, recent statistics show that 40 to 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce. This suggests that divorce has been the answer for millions of people.

If you’re concerned about whether divorce is the answer to your marital woes, you’re not alone. Key factors to consider when pondering a divorce include your motivation for a divorce, possible alternatives, and the effect a divorce would have on your children.

Unfortunately, there are no easy answers to this question. Each marriage is different. But the materials below may help you consider your options as you navigate through a difficult period of your marriage.

 

Questions to Ask Yourself About Divorce

There are a multitude of factors that stress a marriage. Some causes of marital strife are healthy, while others may suggest that the marriage has become unworkable.

When making this consideration, some experts advise spouses to ask themselves these questions:

  • What are your motives for divorce? If you’re separating with the hope that divorce will make your spouse treat you better, you may not be doing it for the right reason. But if you have honest expectations about the effects of divorce on your relationship, then divorce may be the answer.
  • How are you making the decision? If your decision to get a divorce was based on a moment of anger, you may want to reconsider. But if you see a pattern of unhealthy behaviors, divorce may be a more helpful option. It is important to make the decision with a calm, clear mind.
  • Do you have a plan for your children? If you have children, divorce may be the answer if you and your spouse can agree on a child custody plan that protects the health and safety of your kids.

Before making the decision to divorce, many couples sort through questions like these with a licensed marriage counselor.

 

Marriage Counseling Before Divorce

Before opting for divorce, some couples first try marriage counseling. The benefits of marriage counseling include:

  • Open conversation. Marriage counselors can provide an open, safe environment for honest discussions. People in struggling marriages are often unable to communicate effectively on their own.
  • Identifying problems. By working with a marriage counselor, you and your spouse may discover a specific problem that is hampering the marriage. In some cases, this problem may be solved by making some compromises.
  • Honest evaluation. If your marriage is indeed beyond repair, a marriage counselor may help you discuss healthy options to dissolve your marriage.

 

Connect with a Local Divorce Lawyer

Of course, marriage counseling is not a cure-all. If you reach a point where your marriage needs to end, speaking with a local divorce lawyer may help you begin your journey towards a new life.

Divorce attorneys may help you begin to make important decisions involving key issues such as:

  • Alimony or maintenance
  • Child custody
  • Child support
  • Divorce and your finances

During a divorce, it is important to protect your own financial interests, as well as the best interests of your children. In addition, you will want to consider whether you’ll file an adversarial divorce in court, or if you’d prefer an out-of-court divorce settlement.

Divorce settlements require the cooperation of both parties but they are often confidential, quick, and relatively inexpensive. On the other hand, if a mutual settlement can’t be reached, you will have to settle certain issues in court.

For more information about your state’s divorce laws, contact a local divorce lawyer today.

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